Nostalgic For Right Now

Thanks to the internet and other technological advances, we live in a world where everyone is connected to the past and hyper-connected to the present. This makes traveling back to that embarrassing 7th grade dance or revisiting all your past relationships almost effortless. This makes it just as effortless to see what people are doing quite literally, right now. However, oddly enough this also allows us to have nostalgia for events that are still happening in our lives, for example, that party you’re having the time of your life at, or, on a broader scale, the college experience.

The idea of “immediate nostalgia” is something that one of my friends explained to me a year or so ago. It is something that I somehow immediately understood, but still struggled to grasp. As she was telling me about it and her experience with it, I knew I had felt that way many times, but I just couldn’t figure out how it was possible. It seems so obvious, and yet so inexplicable at the same time. How can I have a longing for something that I’m still doing, still a part of? Why would I spend my time wishing I could do something when I am already supposed to be doing that exact thing? Why would I waste my time hoping that the experience never ends when I could just enjoy it in the moment? It is something I still can’t explain to myself, and even though I wish I could escape it, I can’t.

Having “immediate nostlagia”, though troublesome, can make really small, mediocre events seem like these great, meaningful milestones. I look back on my freshman year of college the exact same way I look back on my early childhood. Even if it was only 2 years ago, it still stands out as an important time in my life.

I think this can be attributed to the fact that we change so much, so fast in college. As trite and cliche as it is, I am a completely different person than I was 3 years ago. I also think it is attributed to our generation’s need to never grow up. For whatever reason, we want to be coddled and protected, never having to face real-world responsibilities, just having fun with our friends for the rest of our lives. Going out and getting a job after graduation seems like the scariest thing in the world, and it isn’t made any less scary when you see your friends slowly graduate, get jobs, face more responsibility, and spend less time with you at your favorite downtown bar.

However, I also think there’s another reason for this phenomenon. As it becomes more and more prevalent in my life, I have spent a lot of time trying to figure it out. The other day, it finally came to me in the form of a single word: comfort.

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I will always remember the weekly (almost nightly if we’re being honest) sleepovers in my best friends’ dorm room freshman year. I practically lived there. I always had a changed of clothes and shower supplies on my own shelf in their closet, I would go down to the dining hall in their pajamas to get waffles and omelets with them in the morning, and would stay in, order pizza and watch standup comedy and Beyoncé music videos with them until 2 am. There is no doubt I overstayed my welcome, but it always felt so much more like home than my mostly empty, off-campus apartment. It was there that I found comfort in my first semester truly away from home, so that is where I stayed.

I will always remember the nights when my friends and I laughed for hours about nothing and communicated through facial expressions as everyone else looked at us in uncomfortable confusion because we hadn’t actually said any words to each other the entire night. It’s endlessly comforting to have people just get you and accept you.

I will always remember the moments when my best friend and I switched back and forth between ourselves and our “alter egos”. It can be really comforting to not have to be yourself all the time.

I will always remember the semester I joined the organization I now hold dear to my heart, and slowly getting to know all of the other new members and soon learning how serious every active was when they told us we would become a family. They say you are never more comfortable than when you are with your family.

I will always remember pulling all-nighters in Leavey and looking out over McCarthy at sunrise and not being able to control my smile. Sometimes I forget that USC is and always has been my dream school, and it is the best feeling in the world to be reminded of that, but also to realize that it is my home now, and that is perhaps the most comforting thing of all.

I will always remember standing on the streets of DTLA at 2am after closing time, waiting for a taxi with my friends and hoping that one guy won’t come up and sing a song about my name for the second night in a row. But as much as I try and fight it, it is oddly comforting to know that those streets stay the same night after night.

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I  don’t practically live in Parkside Apartments anymore, but it will still always be my freshman year home and I will always miss Parkside omelets (which are obviously bigger and better than EVK’s). I try to make sure I actually talk to my friends when we go out now, so people can understand us, but on occasion the knowing side glance happens. My friend and I definitely still break out our alter egos anytime, anywhere, with absolutely no shame. I still love my organization and the family that comes with it, and like every family, I love some more than others. I’m not afraid to play favorites. I still pull all-nighters in Leavey. And let’s be honest with ourselves here, I’m not going to stop staying at bars until close anytime soon.

For me, it all boils down to comfort, and I am more comfortable now than I ever have been. And now that I realize why I get immediate nostalgia so often, I’m starting to think it might not be such a bad thing.

Why Men Can Be Gynecologists If That’s What They Want To Do

I just read an article titled “Why Are Men Gynecologists?” It brought up some interesting questions. I, myself, have always wondered why men would want to be gynecologists. Everyone knew that perv in middle school who said he wanted to be one, but quickly gave up that dream after he learned what a gynecologist actually does. Besides them though, I can’t imagine who would actually want to be a ob/gyn. I certainly don’t know any women running around dying to be urologists.

This raises an important concern though. Why does it matter who wants to be a gynecologist? Why does it matter what their motivations are? More importantly, why can’t they do what they want to do without question?

Why is it we push women to do whatever job they want to do, regardless of what gender that historically has filled that job, but the second a man wants to do a job considered to be outside the realm of a “man’s work” we are up in arms about it? How can we, in good conscience, preach equality in the workforce, and turn around and reject men the opportunity to be equal?

Don’t get me wrong. I am no Suzanne Venker. I don’t think men are being endlessly persecuted, and susceptible to “reverse sexism“, if that is even a real thing.

I just think that if we are going to push for gender equality, it should be true equality. If we are going to push for women to have any job they want, men should be afforded that same right, regardless of how foreign their desire for it may be to anyone else.

Because let’s be honest, at the end of the day, if you don’t want to talk to men about your genitals, you don’t have to.

Why Everyone Should Study The Bible

I am not a very religious person. I was raised a Jehovah’s Witness, but spent my childhood summers going to a Baptist church when I would visit my grandmother. Since my childhood, religion has come in and out of my life, but hasn’t really been that important to me. In fact, I probably follow sports more religiously than any established form of worship.

However, this semester I signed up for my first religion class. It is called “The World of the Hebrew Bible” and we study the Old Testament for a semester. It isn’t the class I’ve enjoyed the most in college, but I think it is the smartest class decision I’ve made since I came to college. In this class I have learned things I never knew, I have learned things that I thought were true are not,  I have learned that things I was told were lies are not, and I have learned all of this from only one testament. I have also found that my arguments both for and against religion have become more informed and more accurate.

In treating the bible like literature as opposed to this sacred text that I must worship and live my life by, I have been able to appreciate it more. The bible is full of contradictions that I have had highlighted to me by both sides of my family without them even realizing it. I have always wondered how one religion could have the date of Jesus’ birth as such a central part of their religion, when a different one just says “eh, we’ve deduced he was not born in December, but it doesn’t really matter much”. It always bothered me immensely that there was such a large contradiction stemming from one body of text, but one of the things I have learned in my time studying the bible is that it is full of those contradictions on purpose, and it is our job to figure out what that purpose is, and what it means to us. Though there is much more I could learn about the bible, including an entire other testament, it has been really helpful for me to study what little I have of it objectively.

In today’s society, religious zealots are so quick to defend a text that most of them don’t fully understand, and anti-religious zealots are equally as quick to condemn it. I’m not saying educating ourselves on the bible is going to solve all of our differences. People are always going to believe whatever they want to believe, but it can lead to much more productive discussions and debates than the “god hates fags” and “at least I don’t listen to a priest that preys on little boys” arguments that we cannot seem to escape.

Educating ourselves on a text that so many people worship is also necessary because no one should blindly worship anything. So often I talk to religious people who know very little about their religion and what they supposedly believe in, but will proudly proclaim their faith to me. On the flip side, so many people blindly hate religious texts and think they are justified in this because they read one reddit post, but actually know very little about what it is they claim to have so much hatred for.

The bible is also one of the most interesting history lessons you can get. One of the best things about studying the Bible is that you don’t have to take quizzes with questions like “When was the War of 1812?” or “How long did the Hundred Years War last?”, but you learn so many interesting lessons about ancient history and how different civilizations were connected that you probably fell asleep for in high school.

The bible is more than just a religious text. It is a historical document and one of the single most intriguing books of literature ever created. If we give all the great literary classics the time of day, then we owe it to ourselves to sit down and crack open perhaps the greatest of them all.

Racism in the Media is Not Going Anywhere

When looking at the relationship between mainstream media and the role race plays in mainstream media we cannot help but ask ourselves, why is it that when a show has just one token minority character we are satisfied that said show has taken enough steps towards diversifying the cast? Why is it that everyone laughs at the token black character in any given movie being the first to die, but no one does anything to contradict it, and we see it time and time again? Furthermore, why is society seemingly okay with the way in which minorities are represented, or rather, stereotyped, in the mainstream media? What will it take to change the blatant stereotyping of entire races in the media? It seems like, even with as many advances we have made with civil rights and equality, we are still so far from viewing each race as equal, and that is made painstakingly obvious through blatant racism in the media. Suffice it to say, it is not going anywhere, anytime soon.

The media is responsible for essentially all information fed to society. Not only does it inform citizens about news locally and globally, but it informs them of customs and traditions as well as social norms. While the media can inform citizens that certain behaviors and ways of treating people are bad, it can also inadvertently (or in some cases advertently) desensitize an entire people to prejudices and blatant discrimination.

Stereotyping is a problem running rampant in the portrayal of minorities in the media. It is only natural for humans to stereotype as it is a way for us to more easily process large amounts of information about groups of people into categories. Stereotyping is inevitable going to happen, and that is not necessarily a problem. Charles Berg addresses this in his book “Latino Images in Film: Stereotypes, Subversion, and Resistance” when he discusses Walter Lippman’s definition of stereotyping. However, it is possible to turn a common categorizing mechanism like this into a hateful tool used by one people to segregate another people. Enter mainstream media.

In the same book, Berg discusses common Latino stereotypes that are ever present in modern films. An example of one is “el bandido,” which shows negative traits such as “dirtiness, ugliness, sneakiness, ignorance, and a proclivity toward criminality and violence” (Berg 39). This stereotype is based on the Mexican bandit character from old Western films, but modernly, it is commonly seen in TV shows and movies when we see the Hispanic gangster, thug, or drug-runner, who is portrayed as doing almost nothing but causing trouble for innocent, good-natured people, who more often than not tend to be white (Berg 68). What’s particularly interesting about Latino racial stereotypes is that for each male stereotype there is an equivalent female stereotype. The female equivalent to el bandido is the harlot, because she is “hot-tempered” and merely “a slave to her passions” and thus will do anything to get revenge if she does not get her way (Berg 70-71). Two other archetypes are the male buffoon and the female clown, which are portrayed as goofy and clumsy, serving no other purpose but comic relief. The entire reason they are funny is because of their differences from the standard white norm (Berg 71-72). A classic example of the male buffoon is Ricky Ricardo from “I Love Lucy”. A recent example of the female clown would be Sofia Vergara’s character in Modern Family. The latin lover, and the dark lady are the last pair of Latino archetypes. They both exist to be sexually appealing, but for the exact opposite reasons that their white counterparts would be considered attractive; there is an air of danger and mysteriousness to them that the white characters would not be given.

In Donald Bogle’s book “Toms, Coons, Mulattoes, Mammies, and Bucks: An Interpretive History of Blacks in American Films”, he discusses the ways the roles of blacks in movies have changed and remained the same since the introduction of black characters. Uncle Tom’s Cabin was the first American movie made with a black character, and he was played by a white man in blackface (Bogel 3). After “the tom” there were four other black archetypes in films: the coon, the tragic mulatto, the mammy, and the brutal black. These were used for the purpose of “entertain[ing] by stressing negro inferiority,” (Bogel 4). Though these exact archetypes are not existent in movies today, there are still basic stereotypes derived from them that are used more often than they probably should be. For example, as opposed to the brutal black, in today’s media we commonly see the angry black man (ex.: Samuel L. Jackson characters). While the angry black man is not as brute and savage as the brutal black was created to be, the same basic concept is intact in the use of both stereotypes: anger and violence trumps over logic and reasoning when it comes to problem solving. We also see the mammy still present in the form of the loud, big, black woman who usually is a mother of some sort. We see main characteristics of the mammy such as independence, boisterousness, and bossiness in modern characters like Madea.

Teresa Mok discusses Asian stereotypes in her article “Getting the Message: Media Images and Stereotypes and their Effect on Asian Americans”. Mok brings up the notion of the “Yellow Peril” or the economic threat of Asians taking on labor-intensive jobs that none of the whites really even wanted (188) that was popular in the 1920s. A modern parallel would be the problem some Americans have with “illegal immigrant” workers taking on farm and field jobs that would not be filled by other Americans, because of how intensive the work is. Though there is no real economic threat to these workers doing their jobs (if anything it helps our economy by creating more products for the market and keeping American run farms in business), there is this overt racism that makes people think it is not okay for Mexican workers to be here and “take our money out of our economy”. This sentiment is the same one as described by the notion of “Yellow Peril”, and since Asians were generally unpopular at the time, they were portrayed as “wily, mysterious, sneaky, and inscrutable” (Mok 188). The portrayal of Asian characters in media has changed over time, based on the general feelings towards Asians mostly centered around political events. When Japan attacked China in 1937, Chinese were portrayed as hard-working peasants, but when Japan attacked Pearl Harbor in 1941, the Japanese began to be portrayed as lustful and cruel. When Mao Zedong rose to power in 1949, the rise of communism led to the Chinese being portrayed negatively in the media.  In 1978, the Vietnam War led to the Vietnamese replacing the Chinese as the bad guys in the media.

There was also the heavily bought-into sentiment that Asians were weaker and more submissive. This is very obvious when looking at Asian women’s roles. The rise of the geisha in the 1950s played into that because the primary purpose of the geisha was to be cater to the man’s every need (Mok 191-192) Mostly every other Asian woman’s role served the same purpose. Though interracial marriages were becoming more commonplace, the media really only saw one type as acceptable among Asians: that of the white male and Asian female. Even then, in those interracial marriages that were portrayed, the male was always dominant over the female (Mok 192). When looking at Asian men’s roles we also see submission and weakness, but in an interesting way. Most main Asian characters were played by white males. This allowed for anything good the characters did to be attributed to the white actors playing the roles. They also were made to seem effeminate, even if they were smart. Any actual Asian actors usually played secondary roles, and they were usually very stupid or foolish; used as a portrayal of Asian mental inferiority to whites. In other words, there was not a scenario in which Asian men could have it all (i.e. mental and physical superiority), unlike white men.

A common theme in all of these racial stereotypes is that what makes them popular is that they all exhibit exactly what the white characters are not, only further enhancing the image of the white characters. When looking at the black archetypes, we see they exist as ways to portray that white people are more intelligent than their black counterparts. We also see that black characters are in general portrayed as less civilized than white characters. A similar conclusion can be drawn when looking at Latino characters. The bandido and the harlot act out of passion and without any logical reasoning. Even the archetypes that are portrayed as attractive are merely sexual objects, not attractive for their character or any redeeming traits. The racism behind the archetypes of Asian characters is made painstakingly more obvious than with most other races, due to political sentiments at the time of each new stereotype. In Asian archetypes we see that they are presented as much more passive and weak characters than white counterparts, thus making the white characters seem more dominant, both physically and mentally. While this dominance may not be deliberate, it is something that is seemingly inescapable in today’s society thanks to mainstream media. It is also something that does not seem to be going away any time soon.

If we look to recent movies and TV shows, we see examples of racism of all types very prevalent. In the recent movie 2 Guns, starring Mark Wahlberg and Denzel Washington, we see the portrayal of the bandido archetype in the Mexican drug cartel characters. They are all portrayed as heartless and mean because they don’t care about anything but making money off of drugs and will do anything to accomplish that. They are also portrayed as ignorant and foolish, because they are easily deceived multiple times. If we look to the popular television show, America’s Next Top Model, we can see blatant racism. In a highly controversial 2009 episode, the host, Tyra Banks, told the girls they would be taking part in a bi-racial photo shoot. The episode took place in Hawaii and Tyra claimed the photo shoot was inspired by the word Hawaiian’s made famous: “hapa” meaning a person of mixed racial backgrounds. In theory a photo-shoot celebrating people of mixed races sounds like a good thing, however that is not exactly what Banks did. Many of the models had to have makeup put on them to make their skin appear darker, otherwise known as “blackface”, a characteristic of the Tom archetype. This is also not the first time this has happened in the history of the show. In an older season of the show, models were given a race different from theirs that they had to become for a “Got Milk?” ad.

These two examples do not even begin to cover all of the blatant or subtle racism that is rampant in today’s media. The mere fact that there is so much racism is a clear enough sign that it is not going to go away anytime soon, however most people tend to ignore the problem, or worse, believe there is none. It is a sad, but true reality we live in. The media is inherently racist, and it would seem as though there is nothing we can do to stop that.

Works Cited

Berg, Charles Ramírez. Latino Images in Film: Stereotypes, Subversion, and Resistance. Austin, TX: University of Texas, 2002. Print.

Bogle, Donald. Toms, Coons, Mulattoes, Mammies, & Bucks: An Interpretive History of Blacks in American Films. 4th ed. New York: Continuum, 2003. Print.

Mok, Teresa A. “Getting the Message: Media Images and Stereotypes and Their Effect on Asian Americans.” Cultural Diversity & Mental Health 4.3 (1998): 185-202. Print.